What To Do When You Feel Lost
If you’ve ever felt lost, you’re not alone. Everyone has felt lost at some point or another. Feeling lost is a sign that you believe whether conscious of it or not, that your life is on the wrong track.
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you meditate, how high your vibration is, how many books you read or podcasts you listen to, or how much knowledge, wisdom, experience, or enlightenment you’ve obtained, there will be periods in your life where you will have to sit in your shit, and there’s nothing you can do about it. There’s no candle you can light, there’s no perfect journal prompt, and there’s no crystal that you can carry with you that’s going to help you bypass those feelings of pain and discomfort. Feeling lost and all the patterns that go with it isn’t this perfectly defined checklist, and it’s sure as hell, not Instagram-worthy. Sometimes being present with the void is literally all there is to it. And God I wish it was as easy as that sounds, but, it’s being present even when it feels uncomfortable. Being present even when you’d rather hide. Being present when every part of you wants to tap out. Being present to what is. It’s important to ask whether or not you have tools that can help you navigate and keep you anchored. We often like to tell ourselves that maybe if we meditate a little more, or if we vibrate a little higher then everything will be easy, breezy, beautiful Covergirl and we’ll never have to feel the discomfort of feeling lost, or the pain it brings, which is simply not true. I’m not saying those tools or therapies aren’t useful, they absolutely are, but they will never help you bypass pain or discomfort because it’s part of the human experience. There is nothing more you need to do but be here knowing this will pass if you can sit with it long enough to process it.
So, if you feel like: ▪️ You’re stuck ▪️ Something is missing from your life ▪️ There has to be more to life ▪️ You are always doing for others but are never doing for yourself ▪️ The life you’ve dreamed of is out of reach ▪️ You keep manifesting the same life situations (narcissistic partner, codependent relationships, etc)
You know you can’t sit here any longer and know you need & want a change, but where do you begin? You begin with awareness. Becoming aware of the old stories, the self-limiting beliefs, the self-sabotaging behaviors, the negative thought patterns, the unconscious cycles, etc. We can’t shift these things unless we are aware of their existence. So grab your journal, dig deep, & reflect on these questions: • If you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be? 5-year-old you? 16-year-old you? 21-year-old you? • What was the most painful moment in your life that changed you forever? What would need to happen for you to heal? • Write down the moments you feel most confident & secure in your self-worth • How can you honor & respect yourself more? • What drains your energy? What gives you energy? • What emotions do you try to avoid? Why? • What do you need more of in your life? • Is there something you need to change that is holding you back? • What do you need to forgive yourself for? • What are you afraid of? How can you confront those fears head-on? • Are you surrounding yourself with people who bring out the best in you? I know these are a lot of questions, & you don’t have to do them all at once — work through them at your own pace. This is not an easy process, & it’s not a comfortable one, but you can’t heal when you keep hurting yourself by staying stuck in the unknown fear. Believe me, I know how hard it is to be lost, to feel adrift, and not be sure how to get back to the shore. I have been there in the exact paralysis you are in now and answering those questions above always creates the momentum I need to start moving again and reconnecting to my friends and family but, most importantly reconnecting to myself. If you need support, my DMs are always open! You don’t have to navigate this alone. But one thing I do promise you is that the life you’ve always wanted for yourself is on the other side of this & you can get there, but you must sit through the discomfort & do the work first I’m cheering for you, I love you, & I'm here for you 🤍